0:00 - Introductions, Panama, memories of growing up on a ranch, Spanish birth mother, father’s family history and how they came to Panama, her siblings and changes in family dynamics with the introduction of her Chinese stepmother – her father’s first wife, being mixed race and the complexities of navigating both worlds
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6:18 - Coming to America, flying on an airplane and living in New York City for the first time, city life, missing her birth mother, her brother José was not claimed by her father because he did not look Asian enough and leaving him behind in Panama with her birthmother, the beginnings of familial rifts, feelings of neglect from her father and longing for her birth mother’s love and care
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11:37 - The contrast of school experiences in America and the one in Panama, how her siblings all had a formal education in Panama and were older ages when arriving in America, the struggles of learning English, growing up in Green Point in Brooklyn, Italian neighbourhood and feeling out of place being the one of the only Chinese families, moving to a predominately Puerto Rican/Latino neighbourhood and feeling a sense of belonging
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16:20 - Illegal child labour in Chinatown sweatshops with stepmother, financial burdens and the obligation of the entire family to contribute, how she became asthmatic and suffers from breathing difficulties to this day, contrasts between hers and her siblings lives compared to her cousins in Yonkers, NY, learning how to be Chinese; cultural values and customs, Mirian having a easier experience than her siblings because of how she looked, was the youngest and knew the most Chinese
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24:07 - Family scandal and whereabouts of her siblings, her sister Alicia being disowned by family and losing the Yau surname, her brother Jose back in Panama being left behind and suffering from trauma and depression after being disowned, father and stepmother forbidding contact with birth mother, Jose, and Alicia, changes in roles within family
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28:03 - Nilka quitting the sweatshop and getting new job at the YMCA, volunteering and becoming a youth counsellor at the YMCA, helping and educating young people in the Chinatown neighbourhood, interactions with the children’s parents and helped her to understand her father and stepmother better, the impact she has made in the children’s lives that she is remembered many years after
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39:01 - Chinatown and how it has changed over the decades, how the various ethnic Chinese groups differ from each other in custom and the way they treat and raise children,cultural differences between Fukienese and Cantonese parents, father vs. uncle and how birth order dictated different responsibilities, family rules
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